[shycar]

Jared what a tough situation. Is this a legal risk placement or just a foster care? That could make a difference. I think you need to find out what your state says in this matter. A lawyer could answer that. In our state the child has to live with you for longer then six months before we have any rights to the child. Just a warning. I know of a couple who fought (their lawyer suggested not to) and they lost. Not only did they lost the child, but also the county would not place anymore children with them. Solcial worker were affraid they would fight every case. They even suggested them to adopt another county. Dont want to dicourage, but just be prepared.

Has the homestudy started for the aunt? If not I would wait. She could back down_our son's aunt backed down, becouse her hubby was not wanting to adopt him. She could also not pass the homestudy. Also what if she is a good person that could give this child the love and support he needs and later the knowledge of his b-family, which will be very important to the child once he grows. This is a tough situation and you should think very carefully ahead.

Hubbywifes-I do believe Shy Bear was giving advice. Her advice was not to fight, becouse we are foster-parents and our job is for ru with family. I personally agree with her. In our agency we have a contract, a legal binding contract stating that fact. Our job is to help and care these children. To help them be ru with family. Plus I also try to see the aunts view. Believe me if I had a nephew out there (even if I did not know him) I would fight to have him with me. Just becouse some or most family was bad does not make every one a bad and unfit parent. If we were all judge by our family, instead of ourselves I think no one would be a fit parent.

Jared good luck with everything. I just ask to keep your mind open to all the suggestions and advice given to you. Keep us posted.