[love4]

msdesi,
I understand what you are saying. Even though I feared what would happen in a reunion and even though my daugther walked out on us I still have a sense of compassion for her birthfamily. I met them and I like them a lot. We have spent time together and enjoy each others company. Even though I don't want this and I don't want to share, I realize that I can't control this situation and I have to accept what is. I am certainly happy for her birthmom to finally see her daughter. I am happy that my daughter was able to put fantasy to rest but I am not happy at the pain that it has caused us. I have stood by my daughter, loved her, accepted her birthparents in our lives but it certainly isn't easy. All my hopes and dreams are gone. There is a new way now. A new life. One with all members in the picture. It's easier than it was but my life has been turned upside down. My daughter once told me that I had her for 28 years and now it is their turn. That is just hurtful to me. I am suppose to step aside and my feelings mean nothing. I feel my daughter was forced out of my arms and what hurts more is that she willingly went. Not a glance back. I understand her struggles and the struggles and pain of her birthmom but where does that leave a family who made sure she was loved and cared for. Who stood by her through all her anger. I committed my life to her and someone came and said, "I'm back. Thanks for everything you did." I too, didn't have a choice. A child/adult was taken from me. I am sorry for ALL of us. I don't know how to fix it other than each of us accepting what is and making a new way where we are all at peace.