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Originally Posted by moose1908
I am looking for help as to where i can i find support. I have not been adopted but i am meeting my father for the first time(well supposed to be) later this yr.
The only sites I can find with forums to chat and things is adoption ones. Can anyone help? As u can imagine i am getting a tad stressed and wound up and each day is getting worse and feel it would helpful to chat to people who have been through this.
Many Thanks
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As the others have said, please don't feel like a fraud. You haven't shared your story so we don't know a lot of what's going on in your life, but many of us have had the experience of meeting a parent or child for the first time after waiting literally years. Some of us hope to be in your shoes soon!
For me as a birth/first mom in reunion there were several stages to the wait: first was waiting in home he'd seek and find me; then was looking at various sites on line seeking him (occasionally over the years); then was the wait for his adad to reply to me email; then for his reply and finally for the day we met. You will find many of us describe reunion as a rollercoaster because your emotions are up and then they're down.
As was said earlier, it's important to think about your expectations for the relationship and to recognise that his might be different.
This past year with my bson has been great. I don't try to be his mother - I'm not the one who raised him and he's not looking to me for mothering. For me however, there is an incredible connection that I can't / really haven't tried to name. I'm glad he's now in my life with his family. I hope you will have as positive a relationship with your father.
This forum is a good place to come for support.
Blessings.
Kathy