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I agree with MamaS that older J's feelings should also be taken into consideration. You're looking out for her obviously in that you feel keeping them together would be beneficial, but consider that it could also be an issue of jealousy that may follow them to any placement. It may actually be better for older J to stay where she's bonded and secure, even without her twin. I'd talk to the CW and therapist and maybe even do a group discussion about the options with both girls. Has younger J expressed that she wants her sister to come with her back to their home state? Does she even mention the sister in her desires for placement or is the focus always on her wanting a different family, despite whether they're kept together? What a horrible situation for you all. However, if you have a pow-wow with them both, you can explain to younger J that just because she wants one thing, it doesn't mean her sister does, or that her sister must go along with it necessarily. This may come as a surprise if she's under the impression that wherever she goes, her sister will also. There's a lot to consider and the professionals are there to help you. I'd definitely call someone for assistance in sorting this out.
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