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You all sound like very wonderful people, the kind of aparents I wish my grandaughter had. My story is very long and sad to me of course. My son's gf became pregnant in high school decided due to certain circumstances to place the baby for adoption. That was not my wish but given she was not my daughter did not feel like I had a right to tell her what to do. Anyway it was and started out open, the couple was very aware that was the only way the adoption would be. Well, low and behold by pure accident I found out when she was approx 1 1/2 yrs old the man had charges against him. Based on what the charges were I was very concern.. The aparents found out that I had discovered the info and decided it (I'm assuming) was no longer going to be open, though I had been in their home almost weekly spending time with her, going out to eat with them, etc.
I am concerned there may be more re: him that I do not know and possibly they fear something being found out, I do not know. The man has brought her by to visit 2 x in the last 2 years but the amom will not call at all. I have attempted to reach her but no response. They have already divorced and now I think they may have moved.
This has been the very worst heartbreak I have ever had. I want my grandaughter to be healthy and happy and know how much she is loved, apparently they are not much concerned regarding her overall, lifelong well being. The law where I live do not seem to cover anything at all, the adoption laws definitely need to be re-done. It has unfortunately made me disagree totally with adoption, though I know all situations are not like mine.
That term someone used "promise and flee" is about right and something needs to be done to cover these situations. I was speaking with an attorney one day and his comment was " I am sick and tired of people treating adoptions like they just signed a contract to purchase a new vehicle or something." That is exactly how it feels to me, like she was bought, makes me sick at my stomach.. Anyway, they will one day pay for this and God will take care of it, it justs breaks my heart for her that it is this way and I feel like my hands are tied. Sorry to keep going on, just wish she would have been with people like you that truly seem concerned with the children and not just the fact of "getting a baby" just because you cant have one.
If any one has any advise as where to turn or any legal info, please let me know..
God bless each and every one of you.
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