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I met my bmom at around age 19, and was happy to develop a friendship with her (although in some ways I needed to keep some distance to protect the family I was raised with). So it went in cycles with rounds of communication then lapses (on my part), and luckily, she let me lead the way and we are still in a good place. I know in my heart that she would like more, but what we have is all I can give, and she is okay with that. My point is that she let me have control of the situation with occasional gentle prodding when she needed more, which was fair and worked for us....
Now, my brother (also adopted), at the time I was meeting her, said he didn't get it and why did I need to meet her....he was 18 months older than me. I always wondered if he would want to look later in life, but never got the chance to find out as he was killed by a drunk driver at age 22. I think that he would have eventually wanted to know more, and always assumed that since he was a boy (I know, assuming is dangerous!!), but that he was just not ready to deal yet and would likely be more interested later in life, as he started thinking family, kids, etc.....
Bottom line is that since you are asking this, I get the impression that you are being considerate of what his needs may be, and that you are probably doing the right thing to keep letting him know you are there, but not pushing too hard or he may just back away altogether. I can say from my brothers take on it, at that age he just wasnt' ready to learn more, but I do feel that he would have wanted more with time.
Keep us updated!!!
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