[josh1788smom]

Thank you for your kind words. I feel awful for your pain as well.

I truly believe in a perfect world, people that want and can raise kids would have them when they were able to raise them, people that don't want kids, would never have them, and there would be plenty of homes to take the kids all over the world that have been blessed by wonderful adoptions. I guess, we don't get a perfect world; it would be nice though.

I was kind of just meaning - we all get to be blessed with these wonderful little people in our lives, why do we have to be possessive of them - or label us or them. Why do we have to become birthmothers, adoptive mothers, etc. Why can't we all just be people that love our little people? (even when our little people are big)

You make sense - I guess people don't think about the feelings of the adoptive mother. She is kind of painted as the lucky, envied one - the one with the family and the abilities to raise the baby. That's why I came here to try to be educated all about the triad. I don't really care for my son's amom but that is because of the many complicated layers to my story. However, I do not want to make him question his whole existence with his family. So, I just let a lot of my hostilities out here - better here than to him.

I am glad you daughter is making her way back to you. She may have felt like this time with them was something she had to do. You know how we all test our parents because we know they'll be there.