[mom2GRLC]

I think maybe you should talk to him on the phone kind of get a feel for him then meet with him AND birthmother.

I think it is a great opportunity for your daughter. Who knows how long he will be in the picture this time. If you could just get to know him a bit and get some pictures with him and your DD that would be such a blessing for her. I'm sure it would mean so much to her that her bdad did care enough to at least come see her even if it is just once (hopefully not).

She's still young enough that she won't even understand who he is at this point. Now in the future if he choose to just pop in and out of her life that would be a little different....that would have to be your decision wether you would want to put her through that...BUT even then some contact might be better than never having contact. She will have a better idea of who he is and what he's like and won't make up fantasies about him.