[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I completely understand where you are coming from. It is not so much now that the boys are older and LOOK like twins, but when they were much younger...because they are 2 1/2 months apart...people used to look at us cross-eyed. We have found that it is SUCH a catch 22...we hate to say they are adopted because it invites a barrage of invasive questions, yet we hate to just say "Yes, they are twins" because they are not. Although we have said it just so people will go away. Even at that, I have been asked how difficult it was to breast feed twins! Sometimes I just say, they are 2 1/2 months apart and walk away...leaving them trying to figure out how that can happen. What kills people even more is when they know the boys are adopted and they ask if they have the same parents, or are cousins, or anything since they look so much alike. Not only that, but they look like DH and I too, so that throws them for a loop.

I feel like a side-show freak the way people act like it is such an amazing thing. Often I just feel that THIS is my family...can't you just leave us alone?? I would never dream of asking someone some of the questions I have been asked.