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I am a forty-one year old adoptee. I would love to have a close relationship with my bmother. If I could find her or even know anything about her. I have talked to a lady named Joanne and she said she had info about them but I have to send her fifty dollars first I guess. I haven't as of yet, my financial situtation sucks! Then people were telling me to be careful about being scammed. Anyways, back to the question; I would so very much love to tell my bmother everything about my life, everything that has happened to me, just cry and cry for all these years of doing things on my own without aparents being alive, they passsed away when I was in my twenties. I have no support and no family at all except for my children and grandchild. Don't worry. I think every adoptee wants a close relationship with bparents and he's just young right now that's all. I have a 22 yr old daughter that was my firstborn and we were so close and yet lately she's been distancing herself from me and her younger (age 7) sister, -whom loves her very much and misses her-- which in turn breaks my heart so much- there's this horrible feeling of helplessness--there's not a whole lot I can do to get my older daughter more involoved with her baby sister. Sometimes I feel like I just can't take it anymore and am angry at my aparents for dying so young and it wouldn't be so bad but they chose to keep me very alienated from THEIR birth family and it was just me and my aparents. Then they up and retirewhen I was twenty-one and my amother dies when I was 23. Long story. I think I could write a book about loss and lonliness and hard times. Feeling alone in the world beyond words. Adoptee stuff, I suppose. Anyways, I would love to find my bfamily (ANY) cause THIS SUCKS feeling so alone. take care and know that no matter if your bson wants to make contact right now or not, you are loved and wanted and needed more than he may be able to handle right now, or for whatever reason he doesn't want to make contact. You're loved!!!!!!!
Sincerely, searching adoptee, LLAPHoping
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Lisa
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