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You have the right to be sensitive because it is an emotional subject. I would try to brush it off and not get to embroiled in a battle at this point. I would let the individual know how hurtful that kind of a statement is to you and your wishes that it isn't put in that context from here on out for the wellbeing of the future baby. The money pays for dealing with the paperwork (visas etc.) for two governments, travel and money that helps maintain the orphanage which can be seen as a donation. You may never be able to explain why it isn't buying a baby when the cost can be so much more than biological birth in the minds of others. In this case I would probably question why people don't say that a woman or man buys their bride or groom. My wedding cost more than my adoption will. I have also seen people spend more than three times on a wedding than an adoption. No one has ever said that I bought my husband or my husband bought me.
Good luck,
Cindy
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