Wow! It's so cool to see that many birthmoms have visits with a schedule and talking on the phone and all kinds of things...
. I never imagined such a thing would even be possible. I remember the adopting couple said when we met that they wouldn't mind thinking about a visit for when she was older if she wanted to, but that's as far as that went.
Ok, some of this I said in my intro post but I'll write again.
I found this board by google recently when I was thinking about my birth daughter and feeling need for support.
I'm a birthmom, who placed my daughter in 1993. I looked into adoption while pregnant but didn't place her at birth. I kept her 1 month but ultimately felt pressured due to financial and also by ex boyfriend.
The adopting couple kept in touch a year, then stopped. It was though letters/pictures only when it was happening. I feel so happy to read adoptive couples allowing more now and feel disappointed when I read stories about a birthmom taking advantage of the privilege by overstepping the boundries everyone agreed to. So many of us out there would have loved to have such chances.