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attachment
There is potential for attachment issues with any child. A lot comes down to the care center and the first family. The agency we are using has a care center with around 1 nanny for every 2 children and so even though that is still not all the love found in a home, I think that helps to keep the occurence lower than another institution that may have 1 nanny for 9 children etc. We also have to face the facts that we don't know the life the child had before being brought to the care center. They could have had the most loving parents who just monetarily couldn't provide for them any longer and in that case the child would have less attachment issues because of the love they felt before. The other side of the coin could be a neglectful first family where the child was never held etc. where a connection was never made. I would definitely talk to the agencies about what circumstance brings the child there and how they are cared for until they are adopted. I would also talk to adoptive parents who recently picked up their kids to see how the conditions were, how many nannies there were, how quickly the children were attended to etc. I would also ask adoptive parents who have had their children home for a long time what they had experienced and how well the children were adjusting. I think you have to research the habits of countries and agencies and double check what the agencies tell you with several people who have gone through the experience. Find a forum which is country and agency specific and get the low down on all the information. Unfortunately, there is no 100% guarantee.
Sorry for the book,
Cindy
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