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Char - I just don't think I would be able to see this child until I was fully healed (if that is possible). There IS a difference between you and if you were a bmom with visits. YOU are not that child's mother, and have no connection anymore (except for those heartbreaking days, I don't mean this as rude). A bmom in open adoption will ALWAYS be the child's mother (that connection could not be broken), gave birth to the child, spent 9 months with the child....does that make sense?
I guess what I'm saying is you are not obligated to do anything (unless you want to of course, but I think you know this). But if you DO want to, I would tell her that you want to see the child WITH HER there. That way she is there to "take care of the child" and you can spend time having fun with her, more like a grandparent or aunt situation than a "Babysitter" per say. IMO, she shouldn't be dumping her baby on you for a whole weekend (or anyone when the baby is that young) anyways....
I hope this helps..I mean none of it rudely or bluntly...I'm just worried you feel "obligated" in some way...
Natalie
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