[bromanchik]

I, unlike the others, do not see this lady trying to take advantage of you, rather, I see her as offering this contact thinking it will help you with your pain of losing the baby. After all, this is what she would have wanted from an open adoption, in her mind, why would you not want the same?

You need to be honest if this is too hard for you, but please do not assume the worst intentions for her offering it.