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I would not trust just what the agencies say about this. Face it, they are going to be biased, they often don't want to admit this is a problem, they want you to adopt, not get scared away, they are businesses. You don't go to a car dealer for information on how often thier type of car breaks down. I would suggest reading the attachment books. You can adopt younger children from Guatamala and Ethiopia and Liberia and Haiti, and often those children have been worn in slings as infants which helps bonding. However, even very young children and even children from those countries can have attachment issues. I would be very careful. I did turn down a refferal once because she was not used to being held. However, I was choosing my child in country and so was able to see her eyes, and see how she reacted to being held. I don't know that you can do that in very many countries. You can choose an agency that routinely gets videos and information on the child, and then find other people who have adopted from that agency or region and see if they have had trouble. Do not just contact the references the agency gives you. Find some on other websites, like this one or Frua, or yahoo boards.
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