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Me too!
Lifessence:
I can identify with your post so much. We had a similar experience just this week
We have tried to have children for nearly 5 years. In January we began paperchasing for China. In May, we found China could be a 2 year wait for referral based on some rumors and projections, so we switched to Guatemala with the financial assistance of my parents.
Since we had already prepared a nursery and bought for a girl, we requested a girl from Guatemala when we began paperchasing in May. We were very close up on the list for a referral this week, when we learned that 95% of the people waiting for referrals want girls and all or most of the birthmothers would be having boys. As a childless couple wanting a girl, our agency cautioned we could have a long wait for a girl, even though we were so far up on the list by dossier date.
We were very discouraged and wondered why this kept happening to us. Whether trying to conceive or adopting, it seemed like we would never have a child. Then, we started talking about how we always intended to adopt a boy in about 2 years. Within an hour, we had decided to change to open gender--likely meaning a boy would be our first referral--and paperchase for a girl immediately.
Our babies will likely be about 6 months apart in age. We will be stressed financially with the added adoption. We will also be stressed physically and emotionally as first-time parents to two babies, but we are so excited and confident in our decision. We always wondered why we kept having these difficulties, but now it is so clear. God meant for us to adopt a boy and a girl together to begin our family.
We are expecting the referral of a beautiful boy any day now and couldn't be happier. We are looking forward with love and joy at having both our son and our daughter home with us sometime next year!
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