09-01-2006, 08:44 AM
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I Love My Kiddos...
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There are simply no guarantees in any adoption...we have done 2 international infant adoptions. DD was 10 months old and lived in horrific conditions in a hospital in Russia. She came home over 4 years ago and we have never had an issue regarding her attachment and bonding. I fully expected to but never did. She was an easy baby and is now a sweet, smart and loving 5 year old...
DS was just 8 months old...from a great situation (even though it was an orphanage...it was more like a daycare situation...just 24/7) in Russia...we did everything right, there were zero red flags, had his info reviewed, blah, blah blah. Here we are 2.5 years later still trying to heal the damage of his first 8 months of life. His birthfamily tried to parent but simply couldn't since he was child #4 and their 3rd baby in 3 years...he went to the great orphanage and then us...no abuse, no neglect...
There are many things you can do to lower your risk...but it always a leap of faith. Good luck.
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~
*Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~Now 8 and a 'Tween', and in 3rd grade. She's all girl!!! 
*Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 6, in Kindy and such a sweet, silly & special boy! 
'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.'
~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
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