I won't go through our entire history. I have 5 special needs children. I deal w/ FAS/RAD/ADHD/MMR/Dev.delays/OCD/Anxiety/ PTSD/missing limbs/ etc. On and on I could go. We have worked really hard to get our children to the point they are today. Last year, I did regression therapy and attachment therapy on my own w/ our then 5yo son. Before I get beratted for not going anywhere, there was NO where to go! Had our insurance company, friends, ped doc/ ourselves, husband's work/ ohter psychologists looking for some type of attachment therapist to work w/ our son to no avail. Took matters into my own hands at that point. Had to. It was very difficult but I did it. This is a child who used to go after the dog w/ a coat hanger, try to kill lizzards and other things outside. No empathy, laugh when others got hurt, etc. etc. Fast forward to today... He is a new kid! Gets complimented all the time, a joy to be around and every other mother wants him as her kid--LOL. If they only knew what I had to do to get him to that point.
Now, we have a new problem we are trying to contend w/. OUr 10yo (home 2yrs.) has always been defiant and stubborn beyond belief. At first, we had choked up alot of behavior to normal adjustments after being in a post institutionalized setting. We are seeing clearly now and can't deny it any longer. She is also a RADish. As you remember, there are no attachment therapists around. So, we went to a psychologist this week. She won't be much help but better than nothing I suppose. However, she will not start working w/ our daughter until she is medicated. URghh. That of course means a psychiatric eval. That means...more waiting. Very fustrating as this is getting serious w/ her issues. She IS a pathological liar. She steals(from home & school, never a store), and this week cheated at school. She has major rages, but thank goodness they are not frequent. She is mostly angry. We may be dealing w/ ODD, I don't know. We just want help but looks as though again we may be on our own. Since she is much older, I know I can't do this on my own as I did w/ our son. Any suggestions on how to deal w/ an older child w/ RAD? She's very charming though if at someone's home other than her own. And today, the ONLY psychiatrist that will see her has NEVER dealt w/ RAD!!!
How is he even going to be able to diagnose? Will he even see through the charm? I guess I'm asking what you all would do in this case. She will be 11 this month. We can see that if she is not under control soon, that she will possibly heading down the RTC route and we can't even phathom that right now. Hence, our deep desire to help and heal her b/c we know there is potential there. she is smart and can be so sweet at times. Sorry for rambling. Just wondering if any of you have dealt w/ an older RADish and how it went. Thanks in advance for responses.
Take care,