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Originally Posted By Teri

I am sorry that many of you-birthmothers and adoptees-have had a difficult time but PLEASE remember that there are many birthmothers and adoptees that feel very good about adoption. There are many adoptive couples that have kept their commitment to birthparents and even gone further. I am one of them. My relationship with my son's birthparent's has grown beyond what we ever discussed preplacement. We speak and email regularly and see each other when possible. They have been our biggest supporters as our attempts to adopt a second time has been so difficult (scams, etc.). Please remember there are honest and dishonest people and that applies to both birthparents and adoptive families. Just do your best to really get to know each other before any final decisions are made.