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I am very saddened to hear of your experiences of adoptive parents not keeping their commitments to keep in touch. As a waiting adoptive mom, I plan to send letters and pictures throughout my child's life and when they are older set up a meeting if birthmom and my child are both willing. I want my child to be able to write or talk to their birth mom so that she can answer any questions they have and hopefully, with this open communication and counseling, if needed, he/she will be able to accept her decision in making an adoption plan for them.
Yes, we want to parent a child and I do not think this is a selfish thing. Just like I don't think that a birthmom is selfish to decide to not parent her child and want the best family possible to raise him/her.
Just like everything else, you have some people that ruin it for everyone else.
Please don't judge all of us by others' and we will give you all the same courtesy.