[mom2GRLC]

but aside from that... I'm kinda frustrated how she could be so judgemental of him....when she was in the same position herself. How she can judge him for living the same lifestyle they both lived ALL their lives even when they were little with such little compassion.

How she can say "he loves dope more than anyhting else and he'll never change"...when she herself choose dope instead of getting her daughter back....yet i would never question her love for her daughter.

How she can not see ....how close she came to being in that same position of me having to say "well someday if my childs wants contact she can find her when she is older."

how she can say "I don't see why everyone says it's hard to quite dope it was easy for me"..... maybe she forgot the first year and a half of her daughter being in fostercare and how she couldn't choose dope over her daughter. Or for the next few months after she signed when it consumed her world. It wans't until she moved out of state and completely away form that situation, friends and everything else that she was able to quite. YEt it was "easy" for her?

How she can say "he'll never change."...when she herself is proof that people can change.

I guess I'm just bothered at how quickly she can pass judgement on him and say how undeserving he is.

I wonder what would have happend had I shown her that same amount of compassion she is showing him? I probably would have never even had one visit with her after her rights were terminated. Because at the time she was clearly choosing drugs above her daughter. She was no different than him....they were both using drugs and both living that lifestyle?

I guess I just don't understand how she ....coming fromt he same position as him....could be so uncompassionate for him and his situation and how freely she is ready to dispose of him and call him worthless and stuff.