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Originally Posted By Nellie

Will you asked for it. I just cant believe you are saying this. Ask your self if you would tell your child that to his/her face in 20 years. I hope your child never reads anything like that about him/her. I feel very sorry for the both of you that feel that you would have rather had an abortion. You mentioned being "cast away like yesterdays trash" and how that made you feel. I am very sorry for you birth parents that have to go through a adoption of unfaithful and lying adoptive parents. But..... You dont like the feeling of being "cast away like yesterdays trash" will I bet if you ask your children when and if you ever get the privilege to met them again if they would rather be alive and had a life you couldnt have given them or be "cast out like yesterdays trash" due to an abortion I think 99.9 of them would say thank you that your choice was to give birth. I know adoption is not for everyone but come on to have the chance to live is. I know you two are going through something that is very hard and will never go away but please do remember that you did this for the children not for yourselves. And we adoptive parents are very thankfull for this. Again I am very sorry that some people are not honest and true to what they say they are but I hope you can feel beter knowing that you gave life and that alone is great. I hope you can someday met your children again and the feelings that you had in the begining about adoption come back to you and hope you can find peace in your heart and mind for the choice you made for your baby. We are hoping to adopt again soon and when I hear of these things it makes me sad for all. If our birth mom would have kept her app. we all would not be enjoying our 3 year old son today. And yes she gets to see him anytime she wants. We are keeper of our word. She is thankfull every day she chose life. I just wish every adoptive parent was honest and true. I hope the ones searching for adoptive parents can find that. I would love to talk to any parents birth or adoptive about this very thing if you want email me at nellieb@olypen.com