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Well, it sounds to me like you are doing a good job with him, but please don't assume that previous foster parents did NOT show him love and respect. An ODD kid will tell you that, even if it isn't true! My 15 year old ADHD/ODD has pulled that about his last foster home and his teachers last year - forgetting that I know all these people. His foster parents were darn good to him, if not a great personality fit, and he'll admit it most times ...but catch him in an oppositional defiant moment, and he'll tell you they were mean and nasty! Now, as for the exercises...I don't know in terms of right or wrong, but I'll tell you one thing...eventually an ODD child is likely to just plain old refuse to do them. What then? How will you punish him for refusing his punishment? Frustrating, I know, but I've found that if I MUST punish I have to use things I can control (like taking away a privilege) rather than things that HE can control (like adding an extra chore). Or else it deteriorates into enforcing the punishment instead of dealing with the original issue!
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