[momof2redheads]

As I read you post I kind of got a little angry. Not at you but at your thoughts. Let me explain. We have a fd right now that has ALOT of issuses. We got her about 9 months ago. She has: Peed in our air vents (on purpose), she has acted out sexually against a boy and another time a girl, destoryed a dresser drawer (twice), screamed, banged her head, scratched herself until blood is drawn, bit herself and blamed others, called myself a few nasty names, hit me with her hands, threw- books,toys,and backpacks at me, she has stolen special things from other children, (this list could really go on for another page.) Sometimes some kids are really hard to deal with. When we recieved into our home this fd we were her 6th placement in only 5 months. She would hurt other children in the other foster homes (especially babies). We have tried our best to help her. She has been treated like one of our own kids, however I have just had to put in my notice. Not because I wanted to get rid of her but because she is hurting my family. I have a special needs son in which she will send running when she screams and bangs. When you point it out to her she does it more. My youngest son is now sick almost every day with stomach problems due to the stress she causes in our house.
My point to my story is this, We are all trying to help these children, but if the behaviors are affecting your family then you have to have them removed. We didn't want to but in the best interest of her and my family it is the best decision.
I agree that sometimes it is hard to see kids pass from place to place but sometimes best wishes aren't enough to help a child.