Rose;
It took me over a year to voluntarily seek outside counseling to help me through some of my adoption issues. It took another year and a half to find someone with experience in adoption grief and loss. I'm sorry to hear that you and your sister now have a strain on your relationship. I hope that time can heal that issue. If not for your sake or hers, but for the children.
(PS - Triplets?! AH!
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