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Yes - I agree with you on all points. And we certainly can continue on as we are now - I like your attitude about the money. I'm certainly not making any kind of a profit on him - but the services they pay for are necessary and would really stretch my family budget. Adoption has not been put on the table AT ALL because of his age and family ties. They feel that would probably be really damaging to him because he'd feel that his family was being taken from him even more completely than it already has - although I really like the way Tudu described discussing this with her daughter! I also harbour some belief that the social worker just doesn't SEE him as adoptable because of his age and emotional needs. I'm going to leave things as they are for now and see what he expresses to me over the next few months. I know that one thing he really WOULD like is to not have Children's Services involved in his life anymore. Although - I have to admit they are a bit of a security blanket for ME as well! I have occasionally hidden behind "no you can't do that because your social worker says so", which makes him free to be angry with her and blame her for things, and let me remain the 'good guy'. She has encouraged that, because he does carry so much anger and resentment about being taken out of his home in the first place - he's told me that he thinks if I have private guardianship I can let him go back to his dad! I told him pretty strongly that THAT could never happen. But right now it is all the "fault" of the evil social worker, so he's still free to love me and bond with me, because *I* am not the one keeping him from his dad. Oh, he is a complex child! LOL
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