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Because of our family's income, we have to use our agency to screen vs. meeting directly w/expecting women. That is a disappointment to me because I did not want to use an intermediary to interface at the onset of a relationship with the possible mom. And BTW, our income has not resulted in us adopting quickly or having an "edge" in any way. We've been waiting longer than many people here on the boards. Our income is not a factor with the exception that we can more easily be targeted and scammed.
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I have NEVER heard this before. The only way you could be "targeted and scammed" because of your income is if you put it out there.
Many initial meetings of expectant moms considering adoptions and adoptive parents are on neutral territory anyway - usually with a social worker, attorney or agency present. Most initial contacts are via e-mail or a toll free number......
AND most agencies will black out certain things in a homestudy if you request them to, and that's IF an expectant parent asks to see it - to the best of my knowledge few do.
Our agency was very quick to tell us that income and material posessions were rarely what people genuinely seeking parents for their child/ren were looking for. I understand that "scammers" are looking for money - but I don't get why you can't screen people yourself.
In fact - many expectant parents considering placing don't want money. We paid ZERO birth family expenses with both of our adoptions - if you are genuinally worried about getting scammed - then just refuse to pay expenses.
o.k. - just read that and it doesn't sound the way I meant it too - it just really surprised me to see that and I need to go.......
But yes, I think that adoption can be a healthy option if everyone involved is honest with each other.....
Jenna - love the new avatar