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Originally Posted By Sean C.

Thanks everybody for your advice and support. I have tried to do what everybody has suggested. My Mom and I went to a adoption reunion support group, and it was great because we got to meet other birthmothers and adoptees who are in the same boat. I did invite my parents to come because I was hoping we could break some ice. My Mom wrote them a really nice letter. They did not come, but I went over to their house after and gave them the letter. I told them I forgave them for the lies and I still love them and am grateful for the life they have provided for me. I said I thought we should all get counseling. But I told them that I can not go back and back and make a cut and dried choice between my 2 families. I have fallen in love with my birthmom and my brother and sister. I feel a wholeness I have never felt. I love my parents, but I love my other family too. I see so much of myself in my Mom. We look alike, twirl our hair the same, have the same laugh, like the same things. It's weird but wonderful. Im not angry like I was before when I posted but just sad now. I'm just going to give it time and hope they come around. Anyways, sorry for rambling but I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice.