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As the single mother of a boy, I can understand completely how you feel. From the very beginning I saw myself with a boy -- I always liked active kids the best, and as a special ed teacher most of my experience is with boys. I also knew that I would most likely be adopting an African American child, and the need for homes for AA boys is much greater than for girls. So, you can understand how upset I was when I found out that my social worker told someone (not me) that she probably wouldn't place with me unless it was a girl. I confronted her on it and she ended up changing her mind, and I got the little boy of my dreams -- now I'm hoping for boy #2.
To be honest, my guess is that you are going to run into problems with people assuming (incorrectly of course) that a single dad would have problems with a girl. You're also going to have difficulty with the fact that girls are generally more in demand, especially internationally and that some programs have responded to that by not allowing first time parents to specify a girl. I'd be proactive about it, and make sure your homestudy supports your goal. For example, I'd talk about female role models you have for your child (I had my homestudy social worker, who wasn't my placement worker, rewrite my homestudy to include male role models), and make sure your social worker knows some of the reasons why you think you'd do best with a girl.
Ironically, I wonder if being a dad with a girl would be a little easier than my situation -- your daughter will probably have plenty of women in her life, teachers, the mothers of her friends etc . . .
Good luck!
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