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[quote=ktm2004]. I gave her an overview of my childhood and life -- Now I'm writing back to her and have found that I am having a hard time figuring out just what to say to her.
Just be who you are and be honest. I was advised not to "burn" my son with any painful memories and it is good advice that works both ways. I've enjoyed small talk over the email, something as sweet as just goodnight and thinking of you. Sometimes you will find lots to talk about, other times you will dry up. I'm into 5 months reunion with my 28yr son and I dry up all the time, sometimes I think I'm talking to myself!!! But initially, a lot of exchange I found great, its tapered off a bit now, to maybe once every 2 weeks, but what works for us, we have had to find out together. Its good to go at a slow pace, cards with a thinking of you is nice, I chose cards that represent something special in my life, like a scene of a beach I used to frequent or a picture of a shark (my favourite subject!!! ). Being open with emotions I found a good thing and he felt he could be open with me too. Some might find that scary. I just think that after the "light" stuff, you may both be wanting something a little more deeper, like how meeting her/writing her/finding her makes you feel, something a bit of lighthearted e.g. I said "you have such a young looking mum for 49 yrs, don'tcha just know, ha ha". Try not to inhibit yourself too much, just try a bit and see what response you get. It is a suck it and see and you will both be terrified of saying the wrong thing, but take courage! and be true to yourself, kind, and pretty much what you want to hear, she will want to hear, as we mirror each others emotions. Hope this helps, but keep posting!
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