Sorry ladies, just want to get it out of my chest
After soon 4 months of waiting, I've just realized that there are many things that really don't help - usually coming from people with good intentions, but still.
So, my list...
- go on vacations to pass the time! (sure, after $15.000 of fertility treatments and having to save $20.000 for an adoption, really no problem paying another $!000 for vacations! - especially when our employers don't give us paid leave and we have to save our vacation for the baby)
- go out, go to the movies (same thing, we need to save right now)
- when you bring your baby home, the waiting won't matter anymore (I'm quite sure of that, but it doesn't really help right now, does it?)
- well, have you considered opening to race, special needs etc? (there are lots of reasons we didn't open to that to start with, just doing it to have a quicker match seems like the worst reason ever to open up)
- have you tried contacting another agency? (yes, but all of them offer fees that rollover on the next placement, so it's not really helping if we have a failed one and we get stuck with an agency that wasn't even our first choice)
All I can think of now... I hope I'm not offending anyone, I know everyone is trying to help, but just remember how it was when YOU were waiting, and you'll see why it might be irritating sometimes...