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Originally Posted by Mommy24
I have been really struggling lately with the closure of my Semi open adoption with my bsons aparents. It has been 8 yrs now and I still havent heard from them, it is very frustrating and I wish I knew what caused the letters and pics to stop and why they felt the need to close the PoBox so I couldnt send letters?
So my question is this, I think legally enforcing open or semi open adoption may not not be the answer, What is the answer?? To me it is black and white, you say you will do something or you commit yourself to something then you do it. (so long as it isnt endangering the child or causing emotional problems for the child)
Anyone have any suggestions?? What can we do? How can we change it? I know for me, I teach my children that if we say we will do something,we do it..if we commit to doing something we do it......
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I wish I knew the answer. I really do. We should be doing the things to which we commit. Bottom line. I am sorry your birthson's family isn't communicating and seemingly, for no reason. Truth be told, it makes my heart hurt.
We are on the opposite side. We chose open adoption because we wanted the relationships with our children's first families. In both situations, it has been their choice (at least so far) to limit contact by not letting us know where they are. They have all our info to contact us but we have no way of contacting them. It is hard. I write letters with no one to send them to... hard.
I wish it didn't have to be this way for any of us and even more, I wish there was an answer. But I don't believe we can legislate relationships. So sorry you are going through this... ((((hugs)))