Thanks for the warm welcome!
It's a difficult situation, to be sure. I didn't really feel too much like a "dirtly little secret", since it was pretty obvious that there was no father in my life until my mom married when I was 11. Lots of other no daddy type issues, though. I'm sure that you can understand. But when I was ready to find "him" and found out about the twin factor, I was totally thrown for a loop and decided not to deal with any of it. I laughed about it, and still do, since it's just so absurd. I mean, REALLY! If you're going to get pregnant, mom, couldn't you at least make sure that you knew which brother it was? I guess I should be glad that she narrowed it down to one family! There must be many people that have no way to ever know who their father (or mother) are, so I guess that I should be grateful for that. It's just so frustrating to have located the family, but still not be able to ever know my father. So close, but yet so far sort of feeling.
I'm not quite sure of what to do next. I guess I need patience, to be sure, but what besides that? Maybe send a letter to my aunt with some pictures? Evidently, I look a lot like her and the rest of the gang. Maybe seeing my face will convince her that I should be "part of the family"?