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Originally Posted by Leigh131313
So, this is an in-family potential adoption...
I think the first thing I would do, if approached with this...is assist in any way I could to help her/him find ways to raise this child themselves..
If after researching, they still feel adoption is the right choice for them...I would need to make sure we were all on the same page. In family situations can be touchy if people don't realize their roles. Relationships can be extremely strained.
I would probably recomend they check out other couples as well, so that they do not feel they HAVE to place with you....that way they can make an informed decision..
If at the end of all of this, they still want you...ride it out. Be supportive, but be prepared that they may decide to parent.
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I agree with Leigh. The best decision it would seem to me is to be as supportive as you can be for whatever they, as the parents to these children, make. I honestly would be very hands-off. If they do choose adoption, I think it is important that you prepare yourself that they may choose another family for a variety of reasons, including to keep the family relationships intact. THey may choose you and that would come with a whole other set of issues but none that couldn't be overcome with good communication, esp if you gave them the time and space to make the decision they wanted, no pressure.