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Here's my 2 cents. Listen to your kids.
Our son was 5 when he came. My husband is a 3rd, so T wanted to change his name and be a 4th. We actually discouraged this. He was in school, all the kids new him by his birth name, and he had siblings that all knew him by his birth name. He opted to take my husband's first and middle name as his middle names, and took our last name.
When our next son came at the age of 4, he was very "attached" to his name. I once called him by a shortened version of his name, and he was adamant that he did not like it, and only wanted to be called by the full version.
Our little girl came as an infant, and we did not keep any of her birth name. She never knew any different.
I understand about honoring the birth parents, but we compromised and respected our kids wishes, except for our youngest, but she wasn't old enough to voice an opinion. They always have the option of changing it later in life if they like.
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