[Happy2Bhere]

Thanks ladies for your honest & sincere replies.
I was hoping I wasn't stepping over any boundries by posting that here.
Want to know something funny? Here we're talking about birthmoms, and what they are going through, and part of me CHOSE to do an international adoption, because I love the relationship I have with our daughters birthmom, and felt I couldn't duplicate it, and wanted that to be special- if that makes any sense.
Our daughter knows her birthmom very well- they talk on the phone all the time- we joke that she's the "Cool mom" cause she gets all the fun with Annabelle, and I am the disciplinary- has her 24/7.
I think she is in a good place with the adoption- she has always said she is, but I just want to be sure with the new birth, and not cross any bounds, or do anything or not do anything. We've already had fun baby shopping, and having fun together & we talk about her baby all the time- I just noticed that she seemed relieved it was going to be a boy, and the fact that she says NOTHING, totally silent when I talk about adopting again- which in the beginning she said she definetly wanted siblings for her-
Thanks again, I admire you ladies so much- I had to have a hysterectomy at age 26, which was so devestating, and I could not be a mom without the courageous step our daughters birthmom took.
Best wishes to all-
Melissa