"What if you placed your child for adoption and felt that you were forced into it. What if you regretted it every day? What if you were sad and miserable and never healed from it? What would you tell the child that you placed? What effect do you think your pain would have on your child? Do you think it is appropriate to share those things with your child?"
I do regret my decision everyday, will I tell my child that? Sure will, when the time is right, not only am I a bmom but I am also a mom and I dont believe that sugar coating anything is the key to an open honest relationship. Does that mean I would call him tomorrow if I could and tell him at 16 , no, but there will come a day that he will deserve the truth, the good,bad and the ugly. As for me being sad, miserable and hurting, no I agree that isnt his problem to be burdened with. No child should have to feel responsible for their parents or bmoms feelings and problems. I personally would never want my child to feel responsible for my pain, therefore if he were to ask if I was sad, miserable, etc.. I would probably just explain that although the days without him always felt like somone was missing, I hung on to the day we could reunite and become friends
