[blessedbybug]

First some background...sorry it got long. DS is two months old and we are in a potentially open adoption. I say it that way because we are willing and want openness and are committed to at least monthly letters with pics, bi-weekly phone calls (or more if V needs them) and at least four visits a year. That is our minimal commitment but we are definitely open to more.

So... DS's first mom has all our phone numbers (and we sent her a long distance calling card to use), knows our present address (and we sent her stamps) and has our emails. We are moving at the end of this month to another city. She knows this too but we haven't been able to get in touch with her to give her our new address.

The last time we talked was mid-July. We don't have a permanent phone number for her so don't know how to get in touch with her. We understand that she left the last address we know where she was sometime after that phone call. We've tried to get in touch...no luck.

Based on our conversations, we have a VERY vague idea where she might be but she NEVER gave us direct information.

Now here's my dilemma... I feel almost desperate NOT to lose touch with her. It is my sincerest hope to keep contact with her by whatever means necessary. I understand her need for space but I don't want her or DS to ever wonder why we didn't make every effort to stay in touch. Would you, if you were in this situation, try to use what little info you have to track her down and try to make contact? OR... would you assume from her lack of communication is an attempt to NOT have contact with us for now?

Thanks for your help...