[Happy2Bhere]

Hello!
To make a long story short- we adopted our precious daughter almost 3 years ago. Her birthmom is wonderful!
We have two issues- I thought maybe other birthmoms might be able to help us with some insight.
1) We are adopting again, this time from China. Our daughters birthmom wants her to have siblings, but never really says much when I talk about the next adoption. (Our daughter will be 4 & the new sister 2 at time of placement) Is this a sensitive subject?
2) Our daughters birthmom is pregnant, about to give birth. She's married, happy, and deserves to be able to have a pregnancy with a supportive husband, and be able to be happy about being pregnant. This child is a boy. The only things she has said were "I think inside I am glad this isn't another girl, so I won't be sad or comparing the two" and "I am 100% going to keep this baby, this is forever, and it's scaring the crap out of me"
When you've placed a child for adoption, and give birth, are there extra emotions? Anything I can do to help her out? We consider each other good friends. (She is 21, I am 37) We email several times a day, talk on the phone quite often, and see each other whenever possible. She said she wants me to bring our daughter to visit her in the hospital when Isaiah is born, but I worry that other visitors might give her a hard time, or that it might overshadow the wonderful, exciting birth of her son, but I want to respect her wishes.
Ok- I've rambled on here- and I don't know if this is exactly the right place to post this. I spend all my time in the China adoption room, so I don't have much experience outside of that forum.
Thanks in advance, and best wishes to everyone on this forum!
Melissa