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Re: Why did my parents do this to me?
Originally Posted By Ronna
Sean,
As a birthmother I just wanted you to know that most of the birthmothers I am in contact with do not want to re-connect, re-enter the lives of our bchildren to cause a disconnection with your adoptive parents. We know we can never go back and 'parent' our child.
I see lots of adoptees and birthmothers that are seeking a real relationship with each other, however, I rarely see on the boards adoptive parents who adopted 20+ years ago speaking out on any of the issues one way or the other. You might want to reassure your parents that you love them and are thankful. I do believe though, that you have every right to know your birt relatives and should never ever feel guilty for following your heart.
My own birth sons parents are unable to accept me in his life, its been almost 4 years since I have found him. They just weren't ready for it!! I wrote them an extremely long letter that took a year to compose, that was 3 years ago and I haven't heard one word back from them, the silence is hard. They just have a lot of fears to overcome and thats not an easy task.
Hang in there.
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