[shycar]

I believe, but not sure, that the answer to the TPR is the judge agreeing by what he reads and hear that TPR hearing should be set. Then a TPR hearing is set and the Judge hears everyones side. Sw will give their reason why Tpr should happen, b-parents give why it shouldnt or sometimes they agree with tpr. Then the descision is made. I personally do not think that your family member should go. This is very emotional thing for b-parents to go through, it is not a celebration. My heart ached when they terminated my sons b-moms right. To see her cry and look at us with tears and say please take care of my son. Or to see the grandparents cry knowing they are losing a grandchild is the saddest and most heart wrenching thing I have seen and been through. They love him, but thing have happened in their lives that could not allow them to parent him. Yes I was happy that I was a step closer to adopting him, but believe me I also felt awful for her. Your family can show their support by going to the adoption and celebrate then, a time when a family is made. But for me TPR is not a celebration, its a time for sorrow. Its a time when a family is forever seperated.