Hi all,
I would love to get some feedback on our situation.
We have gone through IVF a number of times with no success to decided to look into the adoption root as we realy want to have a family and feel we can provide a good loving home.
We have the option of foster/adopting (through the state) a gorgeous 18 month old girl. The toddler has been in the care of the paternal grandmother for the last 10 months and she is not in a position to look after the child long term.
mother is in the process to get he rights terminated by the state, due to drug issues and currently does not seem to have any interest in the kid and is not alowed to be alone with her
mother was clean during pregnancy and lived with grandmother
father also has drug issues, and currently says he might terminate his rights, state said either way he will also loose his rights
Some possible issues are:
we know the paternal grandmother and she will obviously know that we adopted the child and will see her every now and then, we worry that the son will eventually find out where the child is and will cause trouble as he can be violent
both father and father's mother are both bi-polar
there is a lot of alcoholism in both sides of the family
being 18 months we worry about RAD and reading this board has made us more nervous, especially with the fact that both of us work and she will be in childcare during the week
Any advice would be welcomed.