Now the questions……………………………….
Is she even curious about her origins?
Heritage means everything to me. It makes a person who they are today. All my life, I have grown up not knowing my ethnic background. And at times, it could be very hurtful. Like being in a waiting room trying to fill out forms was always the worst for me. One time I broke out into tears and thought "Why can't I give them their answers?!"
What are the chances she wants to meet her birth family?
The chances are very high. She will always wonder what her birth parents are like. She will have unconditional love that can never be replaced and she always thinks about you. You are the first person she bonded with in the first 9 months. You both will always share something special.
At 18, is she even old enough to deal with the emotional aspect of a reunion?
At 18, I was not able to deal with the emotional aspect of it. It was something that was on my mind every once in a while. But I was side tracked by wanting to go to college. I waited when I knew I couldn't bare of not knowing anymore. I had to know something. That is when I started my searching which was 4-5 months ago.
Is there ever a “right time” to make contact?
She will know when the right time is. When that time comes, it wll hit her like a bomb has gone off. The yearn to search for the bparents will be so overpowering that it is all she thinks about and the one thing she wants to accomplish. That is when she will be for the roller coaster ride of her life.
How do most adoptive parents feel about reunions?.
My adoptive parents had mixed feelings about it. I do as well. They will be supportive but realize that they do not want to loose their child. I am an only chld so it was really hard for them. It came to the point where this issue could not be discussed. I think it depends on the family. Every family is different and they interpret it different.
I wish you the very best
