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Re: Re: Re: birthmother upset
Originally Posted By Leigh
Deb,
I think it's great that you recognize that single parent homes can be stable, loving homes for children. The PROBLEM is that when birthmoms talk to agencies and counselors, we frequently get told that married parents are better than single parents and that our baby deserves a mom and a dad. Yes, this does happen. It happened to me!
After a lot of consideration, I realized that I could provide a perfectly loving, happy home for my baby. I just didn't have a spouse. So.... the only things an adoptive couple could provide that I couldn't were a spouse and more money. The money didn't matter all that much, and frankly, adoptive couples divorce just like a lot of other married couples do. So I am keeping my baby, and I am VERY glad that I will soon be a single mommy.
Women considering placing their babies for adoption need to know that there is NOTHING wrong with raising a child on their own, that single women are frequently approved to adopt children, and that couples do get divorced -- there are no guarantees a two parent home will stay a two parent home.
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