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I completely understand the desire to adopt two at once, and my husband and I were strongly considering adopting 2 from Vietnam 5 years ago before we ended up having twins naturally (surprise)! Now that we are looking into adoption again, we are wrestling over whether we will ask for twins (especially if we decide on Ethiopia, where they are common) or one.
If you are seriously considering two, it's a good idea to spend time with infant twins if you haven't already (any parent of twins will be thrilled to have the help, trust me!). I have wanted twins my entire life and feel so blessed to have had them, but it can be utterly exhausting and overwhelming. Through reading, talking to other moms, taking care of my first daughter and friends' children, I thought I totally knew what to expect, but I was absolutely bowled over by the experience. Add to that working through attachment issues, and it might be even more challenging. The concern that two could put a strain on marriage, mental health, finances, etc. is valid.
I am in no way trying to encourage anyone not to adopt 2- there are so many children who need homes, and 2 at once can be absolutely magical. Obviously it has wonderful aspects, or we wouldn't be considering it again!
Mom of 3
Hoping to start the adoption process next year
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