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Our adoption is very open with many visits, calls and photos (including videos).
The birthmother of our daughter called us to come to the hospital. We were in the room until she went into active labor and became embarrased when her water broke. At that time, we excused ourselves and went into the waiting room, where the nurses, and birthgrandmother would give us updates. We left the birthmother and our daughter alone the following day so that they could have as much time together as they could. The day our daughter came home, we went to the hospital, and the birthmother visited with us for a while, and we all hugged and she handed our daughter to us.
All hospitals are going to be different. All birthmothers are going to be different -- and plans can always change in an instant, just like when the birthmother's water broke and she was uncomfortable with us in the room... I would suggest that you talk it over with her first. We started by asking to be at the hospital when she delivered... even if we waited in the waiting room. Follow HER lead.
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