[DianeScraps]

My husband and I recently finalized on our 5 yr old and 8 yr old daughters.

I would say ours is one of the better experiences (from what I have heard) but it definitely isn't all 'rosey'

The 8yr old was the one that we were 'warned' about she was having major problems in school, dancing on desks, calling out, acting out, etc. She is actually doing extremely well and the majority of issues we have had with her are very much age appropriate. We do have food issues (binging, hording, sneaking) due to the biomom not feeding.

The 5 yr old was termed as an 'easy going, well mannered child' Well after she was in our home we found out about her diagnosises which included ODD, anxious attachment, possible depression, etc. We are still working with therapists - and bi-polar will probably be added to that. Some of the issues we have dealt with are daily tantrums (rages), that can be as frequent as 3 a day lasting over an hour. She will often need to be in a 'safety' hold for that entire time. We have also had stealing, urination issues, agressiveness towards peers, etc.

Both girls are in weekly therapy, the yr old also has monthly med checks. The 8 yr old has horrible teeth (due to nutrition issues) and we are at the dentist about every 45 days.

HTH
Diane