[tldowen]

It it really strange how this worked out. I had just started thinking about what to do with my DD's Bmother's pictures. (She just turned 5) I read all your advice and decided that I would know when it was the right time. Well, the other night, DD said out of the blue, "I want to see my bmother". I asked her what made her think of that all of the sudden and she said she had been watching something on TV about some little boys who were adopted. I discussed it with my husband, and the next night I asked her would she like to see a picture of her Bmom. She said Yeah. I explained that after her Bmom picked us, that she sent us a picture of herself. Of course, just like I predicted, after she saw it, she wanted to go see her. I explained that we couldn't because I didn't know where she was and she didn't know where we were. I told her that when she was all grown up, if she still wanted to see her then we would try to find her. Then the next thing she said tore my heart out. Of course I didn't let it show at the time. She said what if they want me back? I wasn't prepared for that and I said, what would me and daddy do without you? And she said you could find another little girl. I said, we don't want any other little girl. Then she changed the subject. I didn't know what to think about she said. Now, understand, we brought our DD home from the hospital and she has a wonderful life. No worries or stress. She is loved beyond measure, not only by us but by all of our extended family. How could if even enter her mind to want to leave the only family she has ever known? After she went to bed, I just cried and cried. Can anyone help me understand? Should I have said something different?