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Our (2) adoptions are open. Pics of our kids' bmoms are displayed in each of their rooms. So the circumstances are a bit different than yours... But I still think that it would be a good idea to show your dd the pics the next time she asks about her bmom. I think the questions she's asking comes from a place of wondering. She probably has some mental image of her and maybe even fantasizes about what she thinks bmom is like and looks like. It could help to make the whole idea more concrete to her to see an actual picture...
Maybe you could give her the choice next time she brings up the topic of her bmom? You could say something along the lines of -- "I know you are thinking about your bmom. I think about her too... I'm glad we can talk about this together. I did not get to meet your birthmom. But I have some pictures of her, would you like to see them?" (obviously in your own words and according to what you think your dd would understand given she's only 5).
Someone told me early on that if we are comfortable with our kids' adoptions and about talking about their bparents, the kids' will feel more secure about it themselves. But if we are anxious, the kids will no doubt pick up on our nervousness. Not saying its easy at all! Just that its important to be aware of and work on.
Good luck!
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